The Need to Control
Several years before I retired from the military, I had the opportunity to be part of the committee that would help guide the base through the transition from government run to a contractor managed military housing. It was a very eye opening experience.
Most of the contractor leadership we dealt with was in there mid to late 50’s or older. I was one of the older military members in the group at 43. During one of the town hall meetings, I struck up a conversation with one of the contractors about my responsibilities in the service, the programs I managed, etc. She was astounded that I was in such a position of authority at my age and remarked that in her world I would only be a middle manager at best. Until that day, I had never really understood the level of trust and faith my leadership had place in me.
As we navigate the next phase of our expansion, I’m finding a need to trust our Lord even more than I have in the past. We will be adding 2 more employees in the next few months which places more pressure on me as the leader of the company. My actions and decisions now directly affect 3 families, not just my wife and I. This means more time with Him.
How do you handle the pressures of leadership? Do you fly by the seat of your pants, follow some type of business model or place your trust in a higher authority? Don’t get me wrong, we still have to make sound daily decisions based on our circumstances and resources at hand. However, when it comes to making big moves, I find it’s better to wait for guidance from the One with the master plan than to strike out on my own. After all, He’s brought us this far, I don’t think He’s going to leave us on the side of the road now.
The Need to Control
by Os Hillman
“You acted foolishly,” Samuel said…. 1 Samuel 13:13
The prophet Samuel had anointed Saul the first king of Israel. Saul was now 30 years old and was leading the nation in battle against the Philistines. The Philistines had gathered at Micmash to come against Saul and his army. The Lord was directing Saul through the prophet Samuel. Samuel instructed Saul to go ahead of him to Micmash, and he would follow in seven days. He would then offer a burnt offering on behalf of the people of Israel.
The pressure began to build as the Philistines gathered around Micmash preparing for battle. The people of Israel grew fearful and began to scatter throughout the countryside. Saul was also afraid. Samuel did not show up on the morning of the seventh day. Finally, Saul, fearing the impending attack, took it upon himself to offer the burnt offering. After he had done this, Samuel showed up.
…”You have not kept the command the Lord your God gave you; if you had, He would have established your kingdom over Israel for all time. But now your kingdom will not endure; the Lord has sought out a man after His own heart and appointed him leader of His people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command” (1 Samuel 13:13-14).
Saul believed he needed to take control of the situation. Whenever we try to take control of a situation out of God’s will, we demonstrate that we are led by fear. Many a boss is so driven by fear that he attempts to manage by over controlling his people. This results in codependent relationships in which the employees are fearful of making the wrong decisions, and are driven to please the manager at all costs. This results in loss of respect for the manager. Many times the employees make poor choices just to please their manager; as a result, resentment begins to build among the employees due to the manager’s over control.
Do you see any signs of over control in how you relate to others? Can you allow others the freedom to fail? Do you find yourself changing directions in midstream when you see something you don’t like? Are you fearful of failure? These are all symptoms of a Saul-control spirit. Pray that God will allow you to walk in the freedom of trusting in Him and those around you.